July Sigh

Hey friends:

This month I haven’t really kept up writing here for a few reasons. I’m stressed, annoyed, unhappy, uncomfortable…I need sometime off that’s for sure.

Work-wise — this whole month has been a mess. My first 5 shifts I only made my house fee. And when I finally got some momentum, I got a modeling gig which turned out to be the the worst one I’ve ever had! To make things worse it was 5 day booking, there wasn’t much I could do to get out of it and I didn’t do enough to remedy the situation when I was in it, unfortunately. On top of that I haven’t made much progress with my day job stuff…it’s just…uuuggghhh. Doing this job, working so hard to make what I need to get by is really fucking up my transition. I just have to buckle down, get serious, and suck it up. 

Needless to say, my body and mind are completely dysfunctional. I haven’t had time to create the thoughtful commentary on stripping that I would like.

However, there have been a few things I’ve been meaning to talk about, so here’s some of the things I’d like to get to:

1. Labor laws in relation to stripping: I saw a post awhile ago that discussed how we, as strippers, should demand wages, health benefits and the other things that would be available to people in other industries. I’m of two minds on the whole thing, so once I’ve thought it through I’ll post it.

2. Why I think a makeup consult for everyone in sex work is a good thing!

3. Charge backs: Our manager has been up our ass about it, I’ll give the details once I can get over how angry I am about it. 

…That’s it for the most part. 

Personal life wise, everything is okay. I’m going to see Sweets and his wife in two weeks. Then in September I’m off to Hawaii to see one of my BFFs…hopefully that time will be enough to recharge my batteries. Although the trip to Hawaii will in part be a work one. I’m going to see if I can train her in stripping so she won’t have to keep her crappy low wage job. She hasn’t visited the club that we would potentially work at though, so I don’t know how serious she is about it.

Tinder is great. Although this is the most insecure I’ve ever been dating someone, simply because I like her so much and I just hope to GOD she likes me as much as I like her. For the first time a couple weeks ago I actually got the urge to want to have sex with her, twice. In the 8 months I’ve been sexless this is the first time that’s happened. Ideally I’d like to make it to a year though, before anything happens, but we’ll see. 

Well, if you’re anywhere in the southwest you know we have about 2 more months of summer left…maybe three if we’re lucky. Hope you enjoy it!



PS: If you send me asks, I answer when I can for sure. :-)

sashapascalnicole asked:

Hey! I've read all your favorite's posts and Dear SN's, but I cant seem to find an answer to my question. As what you call a "baby dancer" (I say dancer because at the club I'm applying for it's a bikini bar), what is the difference between a "static" pole and the other types? One moves and one doesn't, yes?

Hey girl,

Yea, there are static poles that don’t move, or more accurately, don’t rotate. And then there are spinning poles that rotate.

I think for professional pole dancers who do competitions and things like that the industry standard is static. I’d even dare to say that in most strip clubs that’s pretty standard, assuming that they have poles at all! However, spinning poles are out there too. They’re super fun for new dancers because you can really do anything on it and it looks awesome! Downside is that if you’re drunk you can get real dizzy real quick if you don’t watch what you’re doing.



Anonymous asked:

Hey, I just read that ask about taxes and I was curious, why wouldn't you want to put all of your money in the bank? Is it because the IRS would track the deposits? I've been stripping for just under a year now and I put all of it in a bank, moreover, I didn't report all of it the first time (b/c I didn't really make enough to pay taxes in those first few months), but I'm planning on doing so next year...I guess that part of the answer kind of freaked me out...-Raven

Hey Anon,

Yes, you guessed it, it is because if you happen to get audited the IRS can see all your deposits and withdrawals. Since you won’t be able to hide that income that means it’s completely subject to you paying taxes on it. This especially applies if your club doesn’t issue 1099s or W2s.

Let’s be real though, the likelihood of you being audited is extremely low, as explained in this story. You may have nothing to worry about but it’s something you need to keep in mind.

You should always file taxes no matter what, at this point it’s just a question of how much of your earnings you’re going to report. That’s why finding a tax preparer you can trust is really important!



Anonymous asked:

Im 26 and want to start dancing but I feel like sort of a late bloomer thankfully I still look young. Do you think there is still money to be made? Or should I just look for a vanilla job?

Hey there,

This is another question that’s giving me the annoyed feels. You’re equating age with income and it just isn’t that relevant. Honestly, being beautiful, sensual or sexy doesn’t nor should it ever end after age 25, this includes stripping. Being those things is only like 20% of the job, the rest of the time you just have to be good at building rappot with people and being a salesperson.

In my opinion you can be a stripper (as long as you’re in AMAZING SHAPE face and body wise) until you’re 40. I work with dancers who are 21 to 42 at the clubs I’m at now. I’ll tell you right now it’s the hustlers, no matter how old they are, are the ones that make all the moneys. In fact, I know dancers who started dancing at your age or older and are doing just fine.

I think the difference between a younger and older dancer is that when you’re younger you’re willing to put up with a bunch more and you have a lot more energy. The old you are, in dancing or in life, you figure you should work smarter not harder! 

So if you want to be a stripper, be a stripper…I’m not gonna advise you to do otherwise.