Lately

Friends:

Lately I’ve been really really busy. Day job stuff, night job stuff, family stuff, romantic life stuff…everything has been crazy so that’s why I haven’t been writing anything insightful about the world of stripping.

I am planning on going to Phoenix in a month or so, to get hired before the Super Bowl. And I’m hoping I can figure out a way to make more money before the end of the year…since this year has been a bust.

But at some point, hopefully in the near future, I’ll get back to writing interesting things about the dancing world. In the meantime, enjoy my asks and commentary on reblogs :-)

xx

SN

Anonymous asked:

Have you ever danced outside the club? You know, bachelor parties and that sort of thing? Any advice?

Hi,

Yes, just once though. A co-worker invited me to dance on a party bus for a group a guys she knew personally. It was $500 plus whatever tips we got on the bus dancing for them. It was fun!

I wouldn’t do that sort of thing unless the customers had a good reference from a friend or co-worker. That’s why I have only had one experience doing it.

I’ve hung out with customer’s I’ve met at the club for a set amount of money. Usually dinner and clubbing but no dancing involved. I always tell someone where I am and set up call times to check in with that person. I usually get paid up front or half at the beginning and the other half at the end.

If you have any specific questions, feel free to ask but I don’t know what sort of answers I could give because of my limited experience.

xx

SN

Anonymous asked:

when a stripper retires and wants to job hop what steps do they take to make sure potential employers don't find out about their old job/current one if they want to jump careers so they don't face stigma. I know it's a bad idea to lie to them of course but would it be better to hide it by calling myself a dancer instead of a stripper (so than im not lying) or just tell them outright (in case they find out later and fire me cause i wasn't straight foward)

Hi,

I have very little experience in this area.

My instinct would be to omit the years you’ve danced altogether and say that in that gap you were taking care of family or something. Also I don’t think they would find out unless they do a real deep background check. I’d have to know specifics of your situation to really know what to suggest. Thing is if you’re just looking to a job, without having gone to school for anything (college, vocational or otherwise) then this could be hard to explain. But if you’ve been in school for something, there’s no point in talking about your previous job history unless it applies to the job you’re applying to.

But for those of you reading this, this is why you should have a side gig, whether it’s volunteering or some BS day job that you cover you when you’re ready to transition. It’s also another good reason to go into business for yourself, so you don’t have to worry about what do to about your resume!

xx

SN

Anonymous asked:

On a scale of one to ten how smart do you think it would be to give out the name of your club privately to followers who are interested in coming to see you at the club? It seems harmless but you know what they say about sharing your personal info/ work place, online...I don't want any stranger danger!

Hi,

Eeehh, I’d rather not. 

I kinda like people not knowing exactly where I am :-)

xx

SN

bethestrongerfantasy asked:

SN, I work with people every day on their financial situation. First, I am really impressed with your very well thought out explanations on stripper income. Very few people I meet think it through like you did. Congressional research from March of this year (using 2012 data) shows in 2012 only 5.75 million households in America earned $125k to $149.9k. Also important is cost of living. Earning $10k in a shift in NYC doesn't go as far.

Hi,

Thank you for the kind words! Getting to your point, only a small percentage of people in this country will EVER make $125,000 in a year let alone consistently making it. And depending on where you live, that money may not go so far…fffoorr ssuurree!

xx

SN

Anonymous asked:

I make about 4 to 6 a night give or take on average in Ohio but I only work 4 hr shifts. I'm a top earner as well.

Hey,

That’s great for you! In my opinion, should be a standard stripper wage.

xx

SN

PS: That’s 4 to 6 hundred :-)

badbitch-empire asked:

Why would you say that you don't think 95% of strippers make $125,000 a year?? That means only about 10k a month meaning working 20 days and only making $500 each day.... Idk where you work but $500 is a really bad night. The clubs I go to the average is $1000-$4000. I don't follow you so if you want me to see your answer you can private message.

Hey,

For those of you interested in what post she’s referring to, click here.

Well, I’m taking into account strippers all across the country and levels of hustle etc…Where you work a slow night could be $500; which is great. But if you’re in a small town in the middle of nowhere where the economy is deeply depressed then $500 a night maybe completely out of reach. On the other hand there are places like where you dance $500+ per night is completely normal. It’s the difference between dancing in a club located in Longmont, CO (an teeny weeny town in Colorodo) and working at a club in Miami, New York or Las Vegas. 

Also you have to take into account the laws of each city and state, which could affect people’s spending habits. Is contact allowed? Is there bikini, topless or nude dances? What is a legal dance? Are dances available on the floor, in a VIP room…? Better yet, are Champagne rooms legal? Can dancers accept the money directly or do they have to give it to a bouncer? Are licenses necessary? How late can the club stay open? Can people bring their own liquor, buy it at the club or is there liquor even served at all?! ALL these things this can make a huge difference in a dancers income. 

Then you also have to consider that not all dancers dance full time or our version of full time which for the sake of this could be 3 to 4 days a week, 6 to 8 hour shifts. If a dancer is working once a week or every other week making $500, then she’s limited to that. But if she’s working full time, making the same amount obviously her income will sky rocket. To be perfectly frank, I’m the only dancer I know who can work 20 days a month no problem. I would say the majority work 2 to 4 days a week. 

Never mind the other reasons like physical or mental disabilities that may keep a dancer from his/her full earning potential, the need to be a caregiver to children or loved ones, the pressure of going to school (college or otherwise) and other things that may keep you from giving your all to the job.

Far be it for me to assume what others earn; but from my 6 years of dancing, reading other dancer blogs, talking to dancers in several cities and my limited education in economics I’ve reasoned this statement to not be true. 

I’m making this answer public specifically to get feedback from everyone reading this.

xx

SN

Anonymous asked:

Hey, i m considering dancing (mostly thanks to you so yaaay thanks) but i have ankle problems, would it be ok to work in flat /small heels, at least at the beginning ? Thanks!

Hi,

Thank you for writing me! And thank you for the kind words!!

The shoes you’re allowed to wear totally depend on the club, some places it could be okay while others it could be a real problem. If the management has a problem, you could tell them about your ankles and see what they say.

xx
SN

dreadfulstripper

dreadfulstripper:

Okay, so if you’re grossed out by that metal part of the month where people bleed out for a few days, then you should probably press j or scroll quickly and skip this post here.

I’ve been wondering about the DivaCup and whether or not I’d be able to use it at work lately. Has anyone on here used…

Girl, 

MENSTRUAL CUPS ARE THE BEST THING EVER. Like for real.

Honestly, it makes me upset that I had to use tampons FOR SO LONG before I found menstrual cups!! I’ve used both Diva Cup and Lunette cup with total success. I never feel it when I’m using it, it’s like I’m not on my period it at all. IT’S AMAZING. I will never ever use tampons again. 

I have no problem using it at work, for one there’s no odor and very rarely do I leak. I only leak if I let it fill too high on a really heavy part of my cycle, which again, is rare. If I ever work more than like 6 hours, I can count on the fact that I would have to change it out at some point unless my flow is extra light. 

If you’re worried the changing process when you’re at work, it’s probably best you take off your bottoms all together so it doesn’t drip at all on your outfit. To clean it Lunette offers wipes so you can take care of it in the stall, problem solved.  

I should say here that I’m the only one out of three people I know who have used a menstrual cup and loves it. I had one friend who had too many leaks with it, for whatever reason, so she only uses it on occasion. The other one had a hard time getting it out so she didn’t end up using it again. Both of these women happen to be dancers too.

That said, there is a bit of a learning curve. You have to be extremely familiar with your vagina and be okay with putting something that’s not phallic in nature up there. Also, be mindful that each menstrual cup company offers different sizes so you can find one that’s right for you.

So I’ve hope I’ve convinced you to at least try Diva Cup or another brand of menstrual cup. :-)

xx

SN

askasexworker asked:

Strippers! Hello, I have a question. Would you consider it rude or somehow out of line for an escort to come to your club and hustle for bookings? Either just handing out info/cards or actively trying for an immediate booking. Let's overlook the illegality of soliciting in general and of sex work overall (in the U.S.) and assume business is discreet. Obviously not offering services AT the venue. Thanks :)

Hey there!

Yes, most dancers would find it rude if any escort came to the club looking for bookings for several reasons. The top reason being that it’s a distraction. If you’re talking to a customer, that means we can’t talk to him in the finite time that he’s there which means it’s money out of our pockets.

Another reason is that if a customer thinks he’s going to have sex that night or has an option to have sex with someone else in the immediate future, he probably won’t buy dances. Which leads to the other problem of customers starting to go to the club specifically looking for escorts, which means that all the dancers that are hired there (and probably had to pay for a license to work) loose out.

Thanks for writing me and asking this question!

xx

SN